DISCLAIMER: The following three posts might be perceived as harsh. If you don’t like my attitude — please feel free to send me hate mail or fan mail — whichever you prefer! I can also be reached via g-talk or skype so please feel free to send me a virus or track down my address to send me flowers. The following posts are not for the faint-hearted and over-sensitive types. If you are metrosexual or a women’s libber, please spare yourself the trouble all round as I am unlikely to change my mind on any of the opinions mentioned below.
Why can’t men be the way they used to be? There was a time when men were distinctly manly. Today’s breed of man seems to be confused about what it means to be a man. Women now deal with a generation of men that are plagued by self-doubt, vanity and insecurity.
Frankly, I am fed-up with the metrosexual, the über-sexual (the predatory and unashamed seducer) and the contra-sexual. Even the variety of flavours they come in, stink: from stray (the straight man that acts gay) to JGE (just gay enough).
How can I take a man seriously who never misses the opportunity to check (often admire!) his reflection in the nearest mirror and uses my shampoo and concealer faster than I do? These sensitive, self-adorning and self-adoring creatures, with their unhealthy concern for the way they look, fanny about as shamelessly as any woman. This breed of man is easy to find. Generally they live in or very close to the city — because, let’s face it, that is where the best designer shops, gyms and hairdressers are! Some of these haute couture fashionistas can shop to make most women blush!
What is even more shocking is when one is confronted by a section of the male species that takes little pride in appearance and goes for the brawny rugged look, but still lacks the guts to take you on.
Tearfully sensitive creatures are unattractive and unappealing to most women. Being a spineless, indecisive wimp and emotional vampire can only get you that far. As an empowered woman, I simply don’t have the time to cope with the fact that your sensitivity gets in the way of my frankness. The fact that you can’t handle a hint of rejection or criticism, need not turn into World War III, you drama queen!
While you blame women’s liberation and empowerment for everything that doesn’t suit you, I still think your manners stink when you expect me to pay the bill and you sponge off the fact that I am a successful woman. Have you no pride?
Metrosexuality (the fashionable diagnosis of choice) has made it socially acceptable to be a vain, self-obsessed, stupid, mediocre and sex-obsessed arse. Bona fide men are more significant and a real woman knows that this is self-evident.
I have preyed on the weak in today’s post, mostly because they are in the majority, but let me make it clear: if you are an obnoxious, unbalanced and opinionated know-it-all or an over-aggressive bastard fighting to maintain your power in the world, you have lost my attention. My patience is also wearing thin with the limp-wristed jocks and playboys, and let’s not forget the trust-fund kids. The fact that you attended Bishops is hardly a claim to fame — you can’t ride on that claim for the rest of your life, or can you?
So what would women consider the perfect poster boy?
A man that can think on his feet, not waste time on self-indulgence, a man with honour, good values, pride and principles. It’s time for men to throw out the pink shirts (it’s so last season anyway) and work on their character.
Hey Bev,
Thanks so much for your post… I was beginning to think most SA women were after the metro types you describe.. Also, it’s so refreshing to hear an opinion that goes in the face of the mood of the day. To hear that there are _some ladies_ who are interested in guys for who they are and not what they have or how they accessorise, is encouraging.
I hope you find your guy and he treats you well..
Now, to find a wholesome girl who shares your views…
bob
Any man that needs or uses a fashion magazine to tell him what to wear, how to dress, how to be someone, what a woman wants and best of all what makes a “real” man is not worth the time of day.
Get off your ass and go live life for yourself experience the good and the bad, try everything twice. You might just grow up to be a heterosexual?
Bev, you have a witness!!! I hooked up with a metrosexual last year from anotha country. Everything that you have said, just falls into place with thsi character. Worse that he thinks he is a lady’s man and thinks women will fall over each other because of him. What i don’t like about these metrosexual men is that they aren’t humble, they will tell you something like, “i;m watching olympics on cable” or that “i’m sitting in a room with aircon”. Why do you have to make all that noise. I suppose they are people who grew up WITHOUT these good things around them and suddenlybecause they have been exposed to “riches” they want the whole world to know. Needless to mention that they think they are so goooooood in bed… These men don’t have respect for women, they have several at the same time…it must the way they understand ‘rights’. Which is so wrong!!! They just want good women around them for selfish reasons and not to give tru love. This specie is not good at all. Real men, stand up.