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So many people get up in the morning and go through the motions, just to get up the following day to repeat it all again. They merely exist mechanically, at the same time, at the same pace, in the same way. To them existing is nothing more than a state of being — they plod on and endure it; often oblivious of the fact that they are not necessarily in tune with life.

Living, to me, is a much more vibrant and exciting concept. Living most definitely implies adding flair to your life! It’s about the experience — mentally, physically and spiritually. It’s an emotional sensation. Living is about not holding back, but rather experiencing every incident and occurrence, the good and the not-so-good, as an adventure. It’s about having an impact and being relevant.

Living implies action — it’s about being active and out there. This is even better when a good measure of energy and a little gusto is thrown in for good measure. Frankly, it’s about being excited.

“Excited?” you may ask. Yes, excited, because a consuming, energising feeling from inside you challenges you to want to be on this planet and spurs you on to want to live and make a difference. It’s the ingredient that makes your personality a force to be reckoned with.

Living, of course, involves being open to experience, ideas and emotions — open to feel and open to feelings. Vulnerable? Absolutely! Being guarded has never produced sterling results. Too many young people grow weary and prematurely old because they have lost interest in living. Our planet provides us with an immeasurable and constant supply of possibilities to embrace. Wouldn’t it be fantastic if we could all go through life embracing the endless possibilities, opportunities and experiences? We might just become members of the squad that experiences that optimists have all the luck.

Life is about the positive — the smile, the laugh, the playfulness and the fun. Sure, this doesn’t mean bad things won’t happen and it certainly doesn’t imply that reality coincides with one’s wishes, but a little positive optimism certainly makes dealing with them a whole lot easier.

Life is about engaging in activity and in people. It’s a journey and adventure and a never-ending learning process. Living is a process that challenges your very being; it defines you and especially your character and what you represent. The secret of success is very often determined by the fact that we understand that we are not in this world to be understood, but rather to be understanding. In addition, if you put your heart and soul into the smallest acts, the overwhelming feeling of achievement will act as a catalyst that will encourage you to greater achievements.

What do you represent? Who do you engage with? Who do you inspire and touch? Do you add value to those around you?

I believe you have to have a burning desire to want to live. You must get up in the morning and be excited about what you can offer the world — believe that your attitude and the value you add to society as an individual can truly make a difference.

“Difference” to me doesn’t come in big, flashy moves — it’s in the small and seemingly trivial things. Often we don’t even realise that we have touched someone’s life, challenged their thoughts or provoked a different behaviour. Ultimately, the value we add to people with whom we come into contact, either consciously or unconsciously, is what changes the journey into an adventure and makes the adventure fulfilling and worthwhile.

I believe that these are the key ingredients to leading a satisfying, full and magical life.
All you need to inspire, touch the lives and add value to those around you is really to live — all the way and completely! Go and stir some soul!




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8 Responses to “Not here to exist. Here to LIVE — with impact!”

In order to LIVE one must be in search of one thing and one thing only, your Destiny. The reasons why some people exist and others LIVE is that the one’s existing have not made an attempt to discover their Destiny. Its a very difficult journey and they choose to take the easy route and continue on their daily drudge called their life. I have have personally made the conscious decision to discover my destiny and my life has been forever changed from merely existing to LIVING life to the fullest. As Paulo Coelho author of the Alchemist says, One’s only obligation in life is to fulfill one’s Destiny.

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Denzil on February 19th, 2008 at 9:04 am

Hey Bev, lovely read and you touched on some very important points. I love this quote (business & Life): “The elite performers in life spend their time centered on creating and building value rather than on making money. They seek out ways to enrich others, and they live to improve the lot of those who have the privilege of doing business with them. They take themselves out of the equation and exist, in many ways, for others. The irony is that they’re the ones who become the most successful and wealthy.”

I DON’T believe you have to have a burning desire to want to live, I believe people in their normal, happy state have that already. Our minds and emotions have been polluted by influences we too often care to absorb.

I’ve found that being happy despite everyone else is so much easier than being happy because of everyone else.

People should try that.

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Henre on February 19th, 2008 at 10:10 am

Jissus - I’m exhausted after reading that….

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doosfontein on February 19th, 2008 at 12:41 pm

You have, once again, given us food for thought,Miss Feisty.

I agree with you that one should have ‘a burning desire to live’ although I believe that the intensity depends, to a great extent, on one’s circumstances, be it health, age or frame of mind.

Most people honestly believe that they ‘live’ because they make no distinction between ‘living’ and ‘existing’. What is important here is that everyone actually needs to make/take time to reflect on this and actually plan the direction they wish their lives to take. Obviously this path will need to be revised/adapted as the need arises because of unforeseen circumstances, change of focus or new opportunities. This reflection is hampered because we live in a noise an image polluted world where we are drowning in information yet are often short on knowledge. The frenzy of meeting deadlines, both personal and work related, together with the adrenalin rush that accompanies it, allows us to tick off the goals we are achieving and thus we often experience a rather warped sense of happiness - because we have not considered other ways of living.

Doosfontein, jou ou boks! I can just imagine you with left brow raised, beads of perspiration on your forehead, steaming up your gold-rimmed specs and droplets dripping from your nose - total exhaustion and unhappiness after wading through all this. Just shows you don’t need an Escom power cut to be left in the dark!

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Muser on February 19th, 2008 at 2:53 pm

OMG another shiny happy vodka addled person. BGev has anyone ever told you that you remi8nd them of the Mainstay advert?
Excuse me I think I’ll join Doosfontein and just gently weep into my half filled flat beer glass.

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Vapour on February 20th, 2008 at 12:17 am

Gosh you sound just like Hilary Clinton on steroids.

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Nicholas on February 20th, 2008 at 8:03 pm

Doosfontein - exhausted after just one post? I assume you thought it was easy being positive in such times. Constant positivity does require a certain degree of fitness. Practice makes perfect.

Vapour and Nicholas - Don’t you want to immigrate to outer space? I think we have enough whiners, moaners and negative problem people in the world already. I think it will be awesome to make space for the ones that drive change and innovation with a positive attitude and an open mind. They inspire and motivate those around them.

Denzil - you are quite right, having a purpose is important. Thanks for the valued comment.

Henre - I love the quote! It holds a lot of truth. You also emphasise an important point: it is important to be happy regardless of those around you.

Muser - Open minded and thought provoking as usual! Did Eskom leave so many of these cranky miserable creatures in the dark?

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Beverley Merriman on February 21st, 2008 at 11:01 pm

BEV, very interesting column, but once i got to the blogging…yawn

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bluefrog on December 31st, 2008 at 2:52 pm

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