By Suntosh Pillay
Beggars confront us every day. What do you do when a person arrives, looking pitifully desperate, begging for a handout?
Perhaps we’ve developed routine methods of response: quickly search our pockets and flick a rand; shrug sympathetically; squirm uneasily in the car looking to our side compartments, or, perhaps because suffering has become so normal in our society and deadened our sympathies, we walk past, or wind up the window and stare blankly ahead. Or — worse still — we blame the beggar for his or her position, as if anybody on earth would actually choose this sort of public humiliation.
Our days go on. And eventually, our lives go on. We grudgingly accommodate these minor irritations in our otherwise seamless disconnect from the abject poverty that coexists in our midst. And we blame government for not doing enough with our taxes, to soothe our conscience.
But what are our emotional reactions? Is it compassion, seeing children forced to this degrading life of misery? Is it an exhausted apathy? Is it irritation that our cosy little bubbles of comfort and security are burst on a regular basis? Is it frustration at politicians, whom I doubt see beggars at all (given their constant shield of bodyguards and darkly tinted windows). Or do we feel guilty — that due to historical accidents and entrenched current inequalities some of us are better off than others? Sihle Mlotshwa (The Witness, September 28) highlights the guilt factor, and I think it’s an important emotion to explore.
A few weeks ago I was approached by a young girl who asked me to spare her some loose change. Her mother would be waiting, she said, for her to bring home the day’s “earnings”, which still wasn’t enough. She was untidily dressed, her face filled with gloom, and her desperation evident. This scene was unusual because it played out inside a busy Durban shopping mall, near the cinemas and surrounded by scores of people her age holding slush puppies they will not finish, and popcorn which they will throw at each other.
I could not help but feel guilty. Let’s face it: shopping malls are ignoble symbols of hyperconsumerism. We continually spend more and more on things we need less and less. A beggar in a mall violates the capitalist sanctity that these shelters from the outside world have come to serve. Please forget all social ills while you partake in unbridled, unnecessary spending, says the unspoken slogan of our times.
The devil on my left shoulder says: “So what? You’ve worked hard to get where you are and deserve to spend your money in peace … you pay your taxes and even give to charity now and then.” The haloed angel on my right asks: “But is it enough to give a little here, a little there? Is it enough to pay taxes which, if government didn’t forcefully take from us, few of us would willingly part with? Surely, you can do more?”
And so I, and perhaps others too, sit with this uneasy mental debate, mainly driven by guilt.
All the while, a little girl stands waiting, the fate of her hunger in my hands. And we could argue, “What’s the point, she’ll be hungry again tomorrow, asking somebody else?” Yes, handouts are not sustainable, definitely, but our constant confrontation with people desperately seeking charity should at least catalyse us into doing something more sustainable, in whatever small way we can.
In a similar vein, Mlotshwa’s article asks a key question: Does the black middle class care about the poor? Of course, we must extend this to all of us, the whole middle class lot, who largely live our lives uncritical of our own class positions. This is a generalisation, but it is not unfounded. The gap between rich and poor has widened so abnormally that South Africa continues to hold the shameful title of the most unequal society on earth (as measured by the Gini coefficient).
My questions for readers are these: Do we care only because we feel guilty? Or do we care because of a genuine sense of humanity that is evoked in us when we see such ghastly differences in living conditions? Do we even care at all?
Suntosh Pillay is a clinical psychologist in Durban and public writer. This article was originally published in the daily KZN newspaper, The Witness.
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