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Twenty years ago when Nelson Mandela was released from 27 years of incarceration for fighting for his right to fight for the right to be a free man, I was too young to know what was happening. I knew that whatever it was that was happening was a significant event. Why it was I was not sure. What I knew of Mandela was what I’d heard from my cousin in the rural village just outside the no-horse town of Mount Ayliff, Dutyini, in the then “free” homeland Transkei. I believed the legendary MacGyver-esque stories they told me about this Mandela.

One of the stories that stick out in my mind is the one about how Mandela was able to make a bomb using a mere spoon at his disposal. He was so dangerous and heroic that they never gave him metal spoons in prison to eat with. Since they knew what he was capable of they gave him wooden spoons and he was locked in solitary confinement. This is all I knew about him. I knew he was in prison and that he had to come out because white people were scared of him, why I didn’t know. His name was constantly on the lips of adults. We were never allowed to listen to adults engaged in conversations. It was bad manners in our culture. I so trained myself not listen that I never really heard anything unless I was spoken to.

When my older cousins spoke of him it was always in secret, when there were no grown-ups in the area. It was from 1989 that I started hearing word that he would be released. It would not be until the following year that he would be released. I was in boarding school, aged 11, the year he walked out of prison. The previous year, 1989, my mother had made me read a number of works by Alan Paton — (Sponono) short stories. I remember they were about oppression. Since I hadn’t really encountered many white people in my life at the village I never really understood what it all meant really.

Although I remember when I was a little younger, home for the holidays from boarding school, I’d be looking after my grandfather’s cattle by the side of the road and always see white people driving to the coast, caravans trailing behind their nice cars, fishing rods sticking out the windows, happy white kids waving. Every now and then they would stop and take pictures of these black boys dressed in clothes that were several sizes too big, carrying sticks, a little dirty. I remember that particular year wondering why it was that it was always white people who seemed to have all the nice things. It never made any sense to me. Years later I would come to know why.

The boarding school I went to is in Qumbu, it was certainly one of the best schools in the Transkei at the time. It was a Catholic school, Little Flower Junior Secondary School, LFJSS. Since my mother had started forcing me to read, I started developing a habit for newspapers too. So, on February 12 when the Daily Dispatch arrived the day after Mandela’s release from prison, I remember reading the paper. As I read about this momentous occasion, the headmistress of the school, an imperious 73-year-old Austrian nun who went by the name of Sister Daniel read the paper with me and said: “What’s the point? He’s old anyway, he’s going to die soon anyway. Why did they wait so long to let him go?” I was puzzled because she was a year older than him and she was also the same age as my grandfather. I said nothing because, really, I didn’t know much about the events of the previous day, nor their future impact. Interestingly enough, she has since passed away and Madiba is still alive.

Another memorable quote I remember is by my mother. She had come to pick me up for the Easter holidays. There were roadblocks all over the Transkei as was customary at the time. She was talking about what a great thing it was that Mandela was free and then said: “I pray that God would be kind and give him at least another 15 years of freedom.” Well, God has been even kinder by another five years and counting.

It would not be until the following year that I’d benefit from Mandela’s freedom. In 1991 schools in East London voted to allow black children to go to their schools. I would be one of the first blacks at mine. I was the first black child in my class, in a school of more than 900 children there would be no more than 15 black children in the school.

The idea of black children going to a white school was such a novelty in those days that when we walked to catch taxis home or to school we’d be stopped by older inquisitive black people who were shocked at the sight of a black child wearing a “white child’s school uniform”. “Do you play with the white kids? What do they say to you? Say something to me in English!” Then they’d call their friends and you’d be surrounded by people who were marvelling at this little Mandela miracle. A black child going to a white school.

One day, during physical education, we were playing soccer and as is usually the case, two boys were selected to choose who would play for their teams. As the only black boy, naturally, I was the first one picked because the assumption was that I would be good at it. No one ever made that mistake again.

A year later, in 1992, I would go to high school. A white school. This time the high school had no more than 25 black kids. I decided to enter a speech contest at the school. I went before a sea of red blazers and white faces and white only teachers to deliver my speech. In my speech I said that Mandela had freed white people more than he had freed black people because now they could go anywhere in the world without being ashamed of saying they are from South Africa. Back then most lied and said they were from Zimbabwe when travelling the world — not a mistake they would make nowadays. There was another miracle the release of Mandela gave me, the right to express my opinion without fear or favour. Interestingly, at the end of my speech I had some of the black kids come up to me and ask me if I was trying to get the black kids expelled.




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39 Responses to “‘Mandela can make a bomb from a spoon’”

i really enjoyed this. thanks.

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Elisma on February 11th, 2010 at 4:05 pm

I would have to agree with that- I am proud of living in a free country now! And VERY glad I don’t live in Zimbabwe! Enkos’ kakhulu Madiba!

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AstroDate on February 11th, 2010 at 4:18 pm

You bring childhood memories back bhuti Khaya, Little flower, the white ppl cars passing on the main road and of course the stories our older cousins use to tell us. I think i may have been about 7 my cousin 2 years older than me told me that Mandela was actually a white man, who liked blacks unlike other white people and was in prison because he wanted to be president and Botha did not like this at all and sent him to the slammer. I remember she would tell me these Mandela stories in the afternoons while we were cooling ‘umphokoqo” for our ‘Mvubo’ supper and she would tell me not to repeat these stories in front of any adult. When i was about 10 i use to go to my friends place her mother was a member of ANCWL and she would teach us the freedom chater and we had to recite it everyday and we would listen to Mirriam Makeba record,and we could not tell our parents when we got home. When i was 12 years Mandela was released i could finally speak out, to my parents shock of all the things i knew. Most of all i could finally listen to Mirriam Makeba at home, now that was freedom.

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Vicky on February 11th, 2010 at 4:29 pm

Wow Khaya, this is an awesome post. I grew up in a free Zim and went to one of “white” schools and grew up a “white” neighbourhood. My family’s first holiday outside the country was to Bots and SA in 1988. Bots was cool, uneventful. 8 year old me found SA bittersweet. Sweet: busy, big city, tall buildings (Carlton centre was WOW), big shops, double-decker buses, the beaches, the sea…

Bitter: Colour blind me was introduced to apartheid & it puzzled the hell out of me. I got told off by some white man for talking his son in a hotel lobby. Innocent little me asked my dad what I had done wrong. He just brushed it off. He did try explaining the apartheid thing after I read “No Blacks Allowed” on a sign on a Durban beach. I didn’t quite comprehend but boy did I torment my parents with questions that April.

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Matthew Ncube on February 11th, 2010 at 4:38 pm

A very welcome break to the usual dross that gets served up whenever another struggle-anniversary come up.

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Sipho Hlongwane on February 11th, 2010 at 4:50 pm

nice one…even quoted you on facebook.

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hilton on February 11th, 2010 at 4:56 pm

Thanks Khaya, its amazing how all our lives have changed in little and huge ways since then.

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Andre on February 11th, 2010 at 5:28 pm

lovely blog, thanks

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Janice Winter on February 11th, 2010 at 5:45 pm

Thank you Khaya, that evoked many feelings of nostalgia for me. I was a white boy of roughly the same age as you, being on the other side of the car window, driving through the transkei, asking my parents why we couldn’t live in the transkei, fish for our food and play football on the beaches with all my new black friends. It is interesting being on the other side, particularly at such a young age, when race, laws and stigmas haven’t been developed yet.

White guilt - I guess even our children will have to confront it.

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Brent on February 11th, 2010 at 6:38 pm

an enjoyable read

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Jac on February 11th, 2010 at 7:14 pm

This must be the best article/blog I’ve read for years - I laughed out loud with sheer pleasure!

Thank you! Thank you!

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Gen Pan on February 11th, 2010 at 8:47 pm

This is a fantastic post, thanks for sharing your memories :)

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Laura on February 11th, 2010 at 10:12 pm

Great stuff. Now lets get the rest of South Africa into any kind of school.

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Mnatsi on February 12th, 2010 at 1:23 am

Hahahahahahaha- “Mandela saved the white people more than he did the black people…” Never thought of it that way… Beautiful piece bhut’Khaya.

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GeeMo on February 12th, 2010 at 2:10 am

Khaya - absolutely superb! I hope you are considering writing a book of this kind of memoir writing. I loved it, loved it, loved it, tears almost starting in this whitey’s eyes.

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Rod MacKenzie on February 12th, 2010 at 7:34 am

wow this was an amazing piece of writing. really really enjoyed it. your sense of humour and story telling ability is impeccable.

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safiyya on February 12th, 2010 at 7:44 am

Believe it or not, I had no idea re what was happening in the country until I went to vasity-Fort Hare nogal-a rude awakening for someone whose parents had deliberately shielded their children from knowing about apartheid-in retrospect I think they were scared we were gonna “skip”, like many around our age did. From the age 11 we were taken to catholic schools, under the control and the indoctrination of the Vatican, then for High School, all Girls British concentration camps that allowed no time for meddling in political stuff. Our minds were busy being shaped for the future and we were being groomed to be the perfect society ladies, from a social etiquette point of view. When I got to Fort HARE during orientation there was a strike, and I had no idea what was happening-so I had to be educated from scratch and I had great appreciation of my history and what many of our brothers and sisters fought for, but I was never inspired to join the student movement, because I found them very rough,rude and downrigt oppressive. More like the Malemas of today. I however enjoyed the intellectual stimulation when ever we visited the meetings organised by the PAC student movement-those were gentleman, worldy, well spoken and well read. I wished then the ANC guys at varsity would be more like them.

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Amore Mia on February 12th, 2010 at 8:18 am

So, in short when Mandela came out I was at varsity, and it was great. Throughout i never experienced racism, had no recolection of it-util in 2003 in Pretoria. While growing up we shopped in Queestown and East London), and I can not remember being discriminated against.(even though we had to go through border posts from Transkei to the Republic) We ate out, went to movies, shopped anywhere etc but it seems so vague. My explanation is that perhaps my parents knew their place so well, they went to allocated venues without question and we never questioned either because that was a way of life. But strangely, I grew up having no reverence for White people like many who come from Gauteng for instance, and other cities. White people were people like me, nothing special nothing to be feared. That is the same attitude I had even when I got into the corporate sector-to an extent that a friend who was working in Jburg, but orginally from the Free State, asked me-”u r so free in any situation, u interact with everyoe as equals-why are you like this?” All I could say was maybe it is because I was shielded from experiencing apartheid-do not know whether it was good or bad.

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Amore Mia on February 12th, 2010 at 8:33 am

Although we have differed in opinion on many subjects, I have to say that this is a very well written piece.

An enjoyable read. Well done Khaya.

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boerinbeton on February 12th, 2010 at 8:37 am

Thank you, that was a great read.

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Henri on February 12th, 2010 at 8:58 am

I don’t know if whites were freed more than black people were, but it is true that the Apartheid regime was harsh on whites in ways that blacks cannot imagine. I remember my amazement at the news that Mandela was being freed, given that as a military conscript I had been told that we were fighting a war against communism and that we were winning. National Party propaganda distorted truth in ways that frighteningly mirror George Orwell’s 1984. White South Africa was fed a lie and those who resisted it were coerced into conformity with the exception of a select few who were then labelled kafferboeties or similar. Yes, the entire country, black and white, were set free together with Nelson Mandela.

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Bill Rogers on February 12th, 2010 at 9:03 am

This article’s the best, I really enjoyed reading it. Keep it up Khaya, u’r the best.

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Frizero86 on February 12th, 2010 at 9:06 am

I really enjoyed reading this post. Interestingly enough I’m from Qumbu but although I was in standard two in ’92 I couldn’t attend Little Flower Junior Secondary School simply because my grandmother could not afford the fees. My grandmother used to tell us why there was Transkei and South Africa but she never mentioned why utat’ Mandela was in prison. I remember when as a school we toured East London and had to produce birth certificates before crossing the Kei River and our principal emphasised that we should be at our best behavior as we were now in “another country.”

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Lizile Hams on February 12th, 2010 at 9:17 am

Oh Khaya, never stop writing, please! You remind me of the writer Oom Schalk Lourens, who also reminded us that we are just human and should lighten up every now and then.

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X Cepting on February 12th, 2010 at 9:44 am

Thank you. You have made my day! An honest piece that is nevertheless imbued with real hope and freedom. The time seems to finally have come for us to look back, and pat each other on the back, we are cooling down and getting there and building one whopper of a country for the future. May there be more of your kind Khaya, your words resonate with truth.

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crackpot on February 12th, 2010 at 12:14 pm

Thanks for sharing your story. People of the outside world always assume that people in the inside world know and see what ‘we’ know and see, now we know better! As Surinamese (South America), living in Europe at that time we were confonted every day with the south african apartheids issue, we demonstrated, we never tanked with Shell and we never drank south african wine. Nelson Mandela’s fight was part of my life, of the lives of people who stood for a better world. I cried, when i saw on television that he was released. He is and will always be my great example of the survival of human spirit. Your story adds a great dimension to the story of south africa. I have visited South africa twice last year and will do so again whenever i get a chance. I will quote you on my facebook.

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Karin on February 12th, 2010 at 1:18 pm

“As the only black boy, naturally, I was the first one picked because the assumption was that I would be good at it. No one ever made that mistake again.”

Excellent… Bwahahahaha

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Guy McLaren on February 12th, 2010 at 1:35 pm

Very very well written…so well I had to say very twice:)

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Lu on February 12th, 2010 at 2:19 pm

Khaya this is beautiful blog, it resonates with me very well, i have a recollection of exactly same memories while growing up in Qwaqwa.

I remember some white chaps driving land rovers taking me and my brother photos, we were dressed in identical polo-necks.

The release of Mandela and end of apartheid made totally free.

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Thapelo on February 12th, 2010 at 5:59 pm

Absolutely wonderful post Khaya.. Many thanks for sharing that in such a beautiful way:-)..and Amore Mia too..

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shailendra sham on February 13th, 2010 at 6:54 am

What a beautifully written piece, thanks Khaya, you made me laugh, that bit about being chosen first for football was brilliant.

I am a bit older than you, a whitey who left the country because I couldn’t stand it anymore, only to come back on holiday because I understood something was about to happen here, can’t remember how I knew. Anyway, I had the good fortune to be in Cape Town on that day and I hitchhiked to the grand parade. There are no words to describe the emotions - the moment when we saw his face for the first time and heard his voice - thinking about it still brings tears to my eyes. What a man, what a moment.

I came back to SA because he asked me to.

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Gillian Faichnie on February 13th, 2010 at 9:14 am

Sorry Khaya, but I have to temper some of the praise with the comment that your writing is OK. Nothing special, but keep at it.

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Panchetta on February 13th, 2010 at 3:00 pm

This piece reminds me of how I gradually came to know about “race” and “racism” /”racial discrimination”

Lesson 1: I must have been about seven years old when I overheard my parents saying “abelungu bayasicindezela” which can be translated as “the whites are oppressing us”.I am now 58 years old and this incident occured in the late 50s .This evoked images of white fellow throwing me onto the ground , pinning me to the ground and strangling me.This seemed at odds with the few white people I knew [ a doctor in a local hospital for example as well as white priests and nuns since I grew up in a catholic mission]. These were rather nice people , hardly the kind that would throw you on the floor and strangle you!I did not dare ask my parents to explain as children were not supposed to eavesdrop on adults.As I gradually matured I came to know what they meant.

Lesson 2 I think I must have been about 11 or 12. I was in town and needed the services of Durban post office.I wondered why blacks were forming a long queue at a shabby back office.The whites on the other hand were using neat and spacious office at the front entrance of the post office.I decided to enter the spacious front office………..You can fill in the details…….Suffice to say that I learned to use the back office next time!

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Thandinkosi Sibisi on February 14th, 2010 at 3:20 pm

If Khaya’s piece is OK, damn man, I can hardly wait to read some of Panchetta’s.

Like WTF man?

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mOcho on February 14th, 2010 at 5:05 pm

LOL! Owu mchana - this took me back - I thoroughly enjoyed reading this piece, but it also reminded me that, as a people we must never let the sacrifices of those who came before us be forgotten. It could not have been all for nothing.

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Athi on February 15th, 2010 at 10:29 am

I think you are quite right. Nelson Mandela gave white people back our self-respect. I think he had a bit of help from De Klerk, who I also admire for going against the grain of the then ruling party.

When I dropped my son at varsity this morning, I saw a security guard standing with his firearm raised and asked whether the nearby bank that used to be there, was still operating. His reply: ‘No, this campus has 24-hour armed guards because they target white students, made me feel sick and I remembered why I give him a lift, instead of letting him walk or ride by bike.

I hope black people realise that some of their own may have lost their self-respect despite Mandela’s courage and common decency!

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MLH on February 15th, 2010 at 12:49 pm

Nice piece, Khaya. Again, you have delivered.
Been a while since I read about such moving stories of the past. I have the horrible feeling that they are fading off. Which would be a pity, since they are one of the most powerful stories the world has heard about South Africa, and this am speaking from experience.
Keep spreading your words, brother. Come to think about it, the worst that could happen is Julius accusing you of forging his signature.

Kanam.

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Kanam Junior on March 2nd, 2010 at 9:07 am

“incarcerated for fighting for his right to fight for the right to be a free man” ease up on the spleef mfanakuthi :)

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Fishtheangel on March 4th, 2010 at 9:54 pm

Your writings give me hope for the future of our beloved country - I believe there are more of your calibre out there that will be part of our future. Thank you!!

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Laeti on March 13th, 2010 at 10:12 pm

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